Posts Tagged ‘pet peeves’

Father’s Day vs. Mother’s Day

June 23, 2010

(For fun I’ve decided to include some audio from previous years.)

Yesterday was Father’s Day.
Here are some tweets I saw on the day:
“happy father’s day to all the real fathers out there.. not just paying child support but paying attention!”
“[censored] you, to all the deadbeat dads”

These tweets express the idea that Father’s Day is a day for fathers to commit themselves to being involved in the lives of their children.

However, Mother’s Day is never seen as a day for mothers to rededicate themselves to being better mothers. Mother’s Day is solely a day to honor mothers.
It doesn’t matter if the woman should not have had a child or if she is abusive.

I don’t like the idea of Mother’s Day or Father’s Day. We should not encourage procreation. We should not honor a human who created another human more than we honor one who has not.

However, if we are going to honor those who breed, we should honor them evenly.

If we want to have a national criticize parents/parental awareness day, I am okay with that.

Darling, Honey, Sweetie, Grr!

March 20, 2010

Sometimes, the use of endearing terms, such as Darling, Honey, Sweetie, etc are good. They can whisper to a loved one that you care about them. They can say “I love you” without using the words.

However, there are times that the use of these terms is not loving. In fact, the use of these terms is meant to put down the “opponent”. The term says, in effect, “You are being childish, so I may safely ignore your logical arguments.”

Here are some healthy uses of terms of endearment:
When alone having a casual conversation with someone you care about and she says something like, “honey, I need to go to the kitchen for a tea, should I get something for you?” or, “Darling, can you massage my back, I tweaked it earlier”.

Here is an example of an unhealthy use of a term of endearment:
You: “… so in summation, these are my logical arguments in favor of this idea over that idea.”
Opponent: “Honey, listen to me, you’re wrong.”

As far as I’m concerned, using these terms in an argument is the same as conceding that you are wrong and you have only condensation and an ad hominem attack for defense.

I say hello, You don’t say goodbye

February 9, 2010

It bothers me when I’m on the phone with someone and the other party terminates the call without saying goodbye.
Isn’t it polite to say goodbye before hanging up?

Learn some manners and rejoin the human race!

Fish and Chips (off the old block)

February 9, 2010

Here’s the sequel to the weekend guest story.

Sunday night, 1:30 AM, my cell rings. It’s my CIL’s guest. “I’m going to stop by tomorrow morning to get my stuff.” Why bother to ask when you sprang yourself on a stranger for a weekend? It’s much more effective to make declarations.
I told her if she wanted to do that, she’d better be out by 9 AM, because that’s the latest I can leave to work.
After she hung up (without saying goodbye), I realized that she’ll probably expect me to carry the luggage.
At 8:59 (late!) she called me saying she was down the block, but she needs money for the train and for some food.
“You need more money for the subway then the $10 I gave you yesterday?”, I asked incredulously.

I didn’t want to give her more money. So instead I gave her an emergency MetroCard I carry around in case someone I’m with needs a “swipe”. The card had about $3 on it, enough for a trip to the Port Authority. In lieu of money for food (really?!), I gave her some leftover KFC snackers that I was saving for dinner later in the week.

She showed up with her “boyfriend”. Fortunately, he carried all her crap downstairs and outside. As soon as they were out the door and the door was locked, I took off for the subway station.

Note to self: Background checks on all future guests 😉

Why I Dislike Chase Scenes in Movies

February 3, 2010

Chase scenes are a big waste of time in films because they tell nothing to the audience other than one person is chasing another.
They are often shot with close ups, so you get no perspective on how close or far the chaser is from the chased. This is especially true when the camera doesn’t stay in one place, but instead keeps flashing between the two people.
Too often the two figures are clad in the same or similar clothing or objects and we can’t really tell who is whom. For example, both characters will be wear black suits and the lighting will be dark. Good luck with that.

When I see a chase scene developing I usually get bored and wait for it to end so I can figure out what happened. Trying to understand if the chased is getting away or is being apprehended during a chase scene is a waste of my time.